When the Husband Speaks Truth

May 9, 2016

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My husband and I have been married for 5 1/2 years now and more often than not he speaks truth, and speaks what I need to hear, what God wants me to hear and understand.

I will give you some examples below of how my husband has helped me see what I either did wrong, should have done or pressed for.

Example #1:Passing Judgement

My hubby, kids and I were waiting to check out at a store when I made a comment about what the mother in front of us was wearing. While the little family was cute I felt the woman was dressed way inappropriate (even though she was beautiful). When we left the store my husband told me that after I stated my comment to him that the woman’s demeanor changed and she seemed to hear what I said as her facial appearance turned from joyful to one of annoyance.

I felt awful for days for passing judgement on this mother, and I began praying and asking God to forgive me as I am sure there have been plenty of people out there that have judged what I wore or did as a mom. My husbands comment made me think on Matthew 7:1-5:

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

My husband called me out and spoke truth. I sinned, I was passing judgement when that isn’t my place. But God forgives.

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Example #2: Anxiety over if someone likes me or not.

I won’t say who these people are (in case they still read the blog) but I have felt some changes in peoples attitudes around me and it is uncomfortable. I have talked to my hubby about it and a part of him feels that I could perhaps approach these individuals and ask if I hurt them or offended them in some way but then he also feels that in doing this I could possibly start something that wasn’t there to begin with. Instead he has simply said to pray about it and that perhaps I was reading too much into things (like all women do right?).

Besides my hubby claims he hasn’t had anyone dislike him that he knows and he doesn’t worry about it if people do or have. Why should I.

Example #3: Wondering about Money

Now this one is pretty good so it really shouldn’t be stated but it has some good points that my hubby brought to my attention.

Recently my hubby left a pretty good paying job, however it demanded a lot of his time away from family and instead he went for a job that took a pay cut. Since this new job we haven’t looked back. My husband and I are able to be involved in teaching ministries at our church again, we are happier, we do more as a family and more.

For several months now our income has remained the same if not grown even with the income cut from the previous job. We have money in savings and are able to tithe to our church and other ministries more than we did years past and we see that my blog income is doubling too.

I began to ask my husband why and these are what he said:

We tithe everything (tax return, gifts, all income), we faithfully trust that God will provide no matter our income and we serve in ministry again.

I never thought of these points so once again he spoke truth.

There is a long list of things that my husband speaks truth about but these are the current ones that I am very thankful for and feel blessed by. My husband is my best friend and God knows that so I do believe God uses my husband to speak words of truth and reminder because I know both love me and want to help me see beyond the worries, judging and wondering.

Who in your life speaks truth to you when you need it? A spouse, friend, parent, sibling, teacher

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  • Becky @ bybmg May 9, 2016 at 8:45 am

    It’s always so great to have a reality check for sure. I am grateful for a spouse who supports me and gives me a dose of reality from time to time too!

  • Amy Arnold May 9, 2016 at 1:24 pm

    It’s so special to have a husband who will speak truth in love. I know I appreciate it when mine does and that he offers me a reciprocal opportunity for him. That openness in communication is so helpful, especially when it comes to worry. I always appreciate his reassurance.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  • Shannon May 9, 2016 at 1:37 pm

    It’s so wonderful to have such a supportive husband that helps keep us in line! My husband does the same for me because I definitely need it sometimes!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeat Soles

  • Sarah @ Bows and Clothes May 9, 2016 at 2:15 pm

    It is always good to have people remind you of things of importance. Growing up with a sister who is very plainspoken, I have almost always had someone to call me out when I do wrong. Also, one of my great friends is a lot like me so it is easy and works well when he reminds me of truth.

    Sarah
    http://mybowsandclothes.blogspot.com/

  • Megan May 9, 2016 at 2:26 pm

    Such a sweet post and great lessons!
    ~~Megan~~
    http://www.poshprime.com

  • Tamara May 9, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    God bless you both, lovely couple!

    XoXo,

    Tamara – LoveofMode.com

  • Emily Green May 9, 2016 at 10:40 pm

    I absolutely love the posts about you and your husband, and this one the most! It’s an encouragement to me to see how he is encouraging you!! What a great foundation for marriage, and great inspiration to newlyweds like us!!
    Emily
    Darling, Dearest

  • Rachel May 10, 2016 at 2:19 pm

    Lovely post!

    http://chicglamstyle.com

  • Elise May 12, 2016 at 11:20 am

    Your husband sounds like a really wise man. I need to remind myself of all of these things daily. I love Matthew 7:1-5: so true,a nd I think everyone needs to remind themselves of this, it is a struggle and I think being aware is half the battle.

    Great post!

    xx, Elise
    http://www.sparkleandslippers.blogspot.com

  • Lisa Morin May 17, 2016 at 3:00 pm

    This is a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing XOXO

    Lisa @ http://www.beauty101bylisa.com/2016/05/linkupwithlisa-49-love-your-body.html