What am I doing wrong? + Outfit post

June 12, 2015





I didn’t blog Thursday and Friday last week because I had other “life issues” to deal with but also knew I needed time to talk with my mom and a good friend on the phone- things I put on the back burner.  I know I have been lacking in fellowship with others as I don’t get around much with 4 kids or make a lot of effort to just chat with others.

I have been struggling with feelings of ‘everything is going wrong it must be my fault’ and while I know that is a lie from the enemy it is hard to sit down and evaluate my life and just see the good. We have had a recent van wreck, trying to save for vacation, a dryer that is almost out, a van we are currently using that has no air condition, and on top of that my best friend is wanting a divorce after trying to save their marriage for 9 years and my kids behaviors have been awful lately (probably due to mommy’s attitude as well and daddy not being home a lot) but then again the good things include daddy (hubby) isn’t pursuing school anymore for awhile so he can be home more, there are ideas for the Etsy shop, and just the hope in knowing that God provides for our needs and future.


Perhaps some of you can relate if not the same way as I but in other ways. Some of you might be struggling to get pregnant, get the right job, in your marriage, getting the degree you want, and the list goes on. You may be asking “What am I doing wrong?”  as well.

In the midst of this question and feelings God keeps revealing to me the verse from Philippians 4:12 (NIV)- “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret to being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.” The New Living Translation even begins the verse with “I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything…” wow!

What my husband and I find intriguing is how Paul writes that he has learned the secret to being content in any and every situation which is something I know won’t happen over night but is learned.  It is tempting to be frustrated because I don’t see the whole picture to the things we do or don’t have control over but I am learning to choose to trust God and be content and eventually learn and know that “I am doing right.”

Sorry this post is quite different today but on to the outfit. I LOVE this top! These tripod shots in gloomy weather do no justice, but I just love it. I actually received this top from Mint Julep (one of my favorite stores) only to have one of my sisters discover it had a hole in one of the seams and so Mint Julep replaced it for another top when I explained the hole (I love their customer service). You can’t see it because of my hair but the top collar has a gold bar that I just love and wish I had captured. The material is so soft and just perfect!  I choose to add jeans, heels and several favorite bracelets to add some glam to this shirt. I can’t wait to see how else I can style this top, I am thinking some denim shorts or with a maxi dress/skirt for the summer time.
Thanks for reading today! Have a lovely Monday!
Rachel xo
Outfit details: Blouse: same here c/o The Mint Julep//Jeans: DKNY (old, similar here)//Heels: via The Mint Julep (sold out, similar here)//Bracelets: c/o My Arm Charms (When in Rome and Fairy Shimmer *get 20% off your subtotal of $15 or more with code GARAY)//Blue Bracelet: c/o Kendra Scott via Rocksbox, get a free month subscription for your own Rocksbox with the code GARAYTREASURESxoxo ($19 value).

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  • Orbb June 15, 2015 at 1:15 am

    Finding contentment in all situations can be very challenging. All we can do is our best. šŸ˜‰

  • Andrea Nine June 15, 2015 at 6:21 am

    I am sorry you have been struggling these last few days. Trust in the Lord with all your heart like I know you do and the answers will come in unexpected ways. Despite some rough patches, you still look cute as a button and your readers are here for you and we lift you up in prayer!! May this week be better and blissful!! Hugs!


  • Brooke June 15, 2015 at 8:39 am

    I can totally relate to that. So sorry to hear about your friend going through a divorce, I am also one to really take on the hurt too when someone close to me is struggling. I will say, you are doing nothing wrong, I know I’ve only met you online, but from that meeting, you just seem like such a sweet and kind person. Your sweet comments on the blog have definitely made me smile! Hang in there momma! šŸ™‚

    Love the outfit today too!

    pumps and push-ups

  • Ada June 15, 2015 at 8:42 am

    Cute outfit Rachel. Love that color on you (on top). Your jewels are awesome!

  • amy June 15, 2015 at 9:47 am

    I love the color of that top!

    Sorry to hear about all your trials. Keeping things in perspective always helps me when the ‘little issues’ start to pile up. If no one died, got a serious illness, and I have a roof over my head and food in my belly, I have nothing to complain about.

  • Teresa June 15, 2015 at 10:16 am

    It’s so interesting that you’re talking about Philippians because that’s the book we’re studying at church right now. In that book, Paul is in prison for being a Christian, but he says that everything that has happened to him is serving to advance the gospel. He was preaching and writing in prison, and people were becoming Christians. God can work even in your situation right now. I empathize with you a lot because sometimes it does feel like as soon as you solve one problem, four more pop up. As a mom, it is really hard to find time to chat with other adults (and when I do chat, it’s often about my son) as often as we should. I know I feel that void sometimes too, and it’s so precious to have a good conversation. It sounds like you’re doing everything that you can to make the best of the situation. I will pray for you this week. God doesn’t always make things easier right away, but I hope you will feel his presence and know He sees what you’re going through, and He will work it out for your good.

  • Darcy June 15, 2015 at 10:53 am

    I am so sorry you have been struggling. I hpoe things get better for you soon!!

  • Sarah @ Bows and Clothes June 15, 2015 at 12:30 pm

    I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling. I have been in a similar situation before. All that you can do is trust God and His wonderful plan. I am praying for you and the trials that you are going through. I hope that everything starts to get better!

    On a happier note, that top is too cute! I love the way that you styled it! I always seem to think that heels can only be worn in fancy settings and with fancy pieces, but this outfit showed and reminded me that they can be worn more casually. Thanks for being so transparent and such a great blogger!

  • Tatiana June 15, 2015 at 1:12 pm

    Firs of all, you look gorgeous in red! Love that store, their customer service is really great. NO worries, we (bloggers) understand the gloomy weather. Your pictures look great!

  • Jill June 15, 2015 at 2:31 pm

    When things pile up it’s easy to blame yourself. When this happens to me, to get out of my funk, I force myself to list all the things that are going right. This puts everything in perspective and usually makes me feel a little better. Hope this week is better for you!

    Doused In Pink

  • Whitney 'Nic' James June 15, 2015 at 3:04 pm

    Our pastor said something this Sunday that really resonated with me, and in some way this may be helpful. His massage was about having a heart of gratitude through our storms. (1 Thessalonians 5:15). You are still giving thanks and remaining faithful by posting this, despite your experiences and that is very inspiring. Thanks for sharing and I pray things continue to get better…for you and your friend. XO!


  • Angelina June 15, 2015 at 4:54 pm

    I’m sorry you’ve been feeling that way! Sometimes little things can pile up and ruin our days, but it’s important to look for the silver linings. Talking to friends and family always helps – I’m glad you found time to talk with your mom!

    Angelina Is

  • Jacqueline June 15, 2015 at 6:38 pm

    Such a great look! I completely understand, we all have our days where we feel like we are doing something wrong!
    Stylin In St. Louis

  • Shauna June 15, 2015 at 6:39 pm

    I’m so sorry you’ve been having a rough time lately. Hopefully you all were OK in the accident? Wishing you a peaceful week ahead -xo



  • Amy Ann June 15, 2015 at 9:50 pm

    I am so sorry it has been such a stressful time lately. It sounds like you really have a lot going on lately. A lot of really difficult things. I hope it works out but you should know you are beautiful and give yourself some grace.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  • Kathleen June 15, 2015 at 10:05 pm

    Thanks for the beautiful post. I have definitely been having some struggles myself and also haven’t been able to blog much lately. I just moved to NYC after college graduation and I’m desperately pounding the pavement looking for a permanent job and place to live. I wish you all the best šŸ™‚

  • Becky @ bybmg June 15, 2015 at 10:12 pm

    The color of that top is just fabulous and it looks so great on you!

    Contentment is definitely a hard thing. I feel like I have to reset myself every so often. Thanks for the great post, Rachel!

  • Carrie @ Curly Crafty Mom June 16, 2015 at 12:18 am

    You have been dealt with a lot lately, I think you deserve to feel how you do… I know I would be feeling the same way. This has been a hard year for me on some levels, too! But, a lot of good as happened this year, too… Mint Julep is a great online boutique! I can’t wait to see what new Etsy ideas you have! The color of that top is perfect for the summer!


  • Jennie June 16, 2015 at 8:04 am

    Thanks for sharing this, Rachel. I have been really struggling myself of late, and totally understand where you are coming from. Just last night I pinned something about 19 verses to help you with stress and anxiety that I plan on incorporating in some kind of way to help me through this difficult patch. I will include you in my prayers.

  • IRENE June 16, 2015 at 12:29 pm

    these words are so hosnest and true. we are all struggling with our own issues, but the best thing is to trust in God, and follow his commads, so we can have happiness in our lives.

  • Lisa June 16, 2015 at 12:58 pm

    You look beautiful Rachel XO! I am sorry you are having a hard time right now. If you are interested I found much comfort and life changing ideas in the book *The Magic by Rhonda Byrne*. It focuses on gratitude exercises, and since reading it I have met the most wonderful man in the world and my soulmate šŸ™‚ Here is the link to the book – http://www.amazon.com/Magic-Secret-Book-3-ebook/dp/B006L9B6TI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1434473301&sr=1-1&keywords=the+secret+the+magic

  • Della Preston June 19, 2015 at 10:18 pm

    I am so sorry you all have had such a trying time lately. I’ll be praying for you all. Thank you so much for this inspiring post and that bible verse. I really needed to hear it.