Resolutions, Change and a Link up

January 3, 2017

If you read yesterdays post then you are promised my New Years resolutions. I consider this post a CELEBRATION versus other feelings I felt previously on the topic but read on to find out what I mean.

First, here are my resolutions for 2017:

-To better my health, soul and spirit. I could go on and on with this topic but I don’t want this to seem to negative so I will just leave it at that.

-Find my peace and purpose in Christ alone. This blog, LipSense, my family, friends, luxuries of this world cannot replace what only Christ can provide and that is His undying love and purpose for ME…for YOU! I am just learning to fathom ALL and I mean that in ALL caps what Christ has done. Sometimes I feel like a fool at all the THINGS I allow into my life when my Lord is patiently standing beside me waiting on my acknowledgement of Him. Too often I give Him the lower end of the stick and I want that to STOP in the name of Jesus..the sweet name of Jesus.

-I want to continue to build friendships.  Lately I have met with several of my girlfriends to fellowship and share in laughs and support. LipSense and Blogging have been amazing at providing me with just the right amount of women that I am HONORED to cheer on, love as sisters in Christ, love as moms, workers, both working moms and stay-at-home moms etc. You ALL are amazing and uniquely made and I love seeing your successes and how you are growing individually!

-Better my home, parenting. This would be a book if I typed all this out but in short I want to be a better mom, wife and take better care of what God has given me.

-Work part time and substitute more

– Finally, to CELEBRATE change. More on this below.

What am I CELEBRATING?

At first the following news didn’t come across as celebration to me but rather shock. I poured almost 3 years into this blog but months ago knew it was time to end it.  I was standing in my kitchen in my night gown getting the trash bag ready to go out when I felt God pressing in my heart to end blogging. I stared at my husband in that moment and told him what God was telling me. My husband was supportive and so were some of my friends and family as much as they could.  Then I sunk into a depression about it. I felt like a passion was being taken away from me. I stopped promoting my blog because I thought why try?

The reason for my decision was out of treating the blog like a god, my whole world. For two years my main goal for blogging became selfish. I worried about the numbers, getting sponsored posts, products to review all while trying to remain in the “oh but I blog for a passion,” mindset. Inside I was dying and seldom would I put out a post that I considered “mine” in entirety. I spent more time blogging in the evenings than choosing family time, I listened to every podcast I could on growing and attended several webinars on the side while trying to blog. Eventually it became too much.  I had hoped to make blogging my full time job one day as well and blog for income but obviously God had other plans that day when He pressed on me to end it.

I battled with ending though. I would cry about it, feel at peace about it, then cry about it again. My husband saw my ups and downs on it and one day expressed that he wanted to start blogging. I told him he could take over my blog (since I pay for the hosting/name, etc). He told me “Rachel, I won’t blog without you.” He got my attention! He told me that he didn’t know a thing about blogging and that I could help him figure it out. Then he went on to saying that he wasn’t trying to over trump God or anything but that it could be that my passion for blogging needed to change focus or niche and happen less.

When my husband told me what he thought I told him I needed to pray about it. I understood what he was saying but I want it to be what God wants as I don’t know what blogging would look like without fashion, lifestyle posts etc.

So here we are! This post is a CELEBRATION of what may or may not occur. I may continue to blog with my husband here on faith based posts or I may not.  I am going to take the month of January off to fast and pray for God’s direction on the decision. I welcome your thoughts and prayers. I appreciate the friendships I have made, the collaborations with so many of you and I hope these can continue in some form online or through blogging in the future. Right now I need to focus on God being my God first.

Thank you for being my amazing readers and enjoy the last link up for now! I look forward to your posts.

Meet your Host: Rachel of Garay Treasures blog:

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Rachel is a stay at home mom by day and blogger of Garay Treasures a fashion and lifestyle blog by night. Garay Treasures includes posts on every day outfits, faith and everyday treasures. Rachel loves drinking several cups of coffee a day (hot or iced), blogging, and reading and playing with her children. You can follow Rachel by bloglovin, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook or Pinterest.

Now on to the Featured 5  from last link up:
 
Carrie shows us an elegant way to pattern mix for the holiday. See post here.
Katie shares a more casual pattern mix for the holidays in this post. I love this sweater and the flats.
I enjoyed reading about Sheela’s Christmas memories as a girl and once again I also LOVE her print mixing. See post here.
I love a good sweater and this one on Sarah is the cutest. See post here.
If you are stuck on how or what to pack in your small evening out clutch, then watch Grace’s video here on her tips to successfully packing a clutch or small bag perfectly.

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  • Katie January 3, 2017 at 1:16 am

    Happy New Year! I hope that you continue with your blog, but that’s a personal decision that only you can make. I totally understand the feeling that sometimes blogging can take priority over other more important things in life, which can become rather addictive. Whatever choice you make, I’m sure it will be the right one!

    -Katie
    http://hellokatiegirl.blogspot.com/

  • Laurie January 3, 2017 at 3:44 am

    I hope god tells you to come back! xx
    http://www.vanityandmestyle.com

  • Pam January 3, 2017 at 6:30 am

    Blogging is so crazy hard. You could do it 24/7 if you let it. Taking the time off might help you come to a decision. I personally stopped looking at numbers, stopped agonizing over it, and I’m now I’m doing it for fun. No pressure, just fun. Maybe you could do something like that?

  • Carrie @ Curly Crafty Mom January 3, 2017 at 6:51 am

    Thank you for the feature, Rachel! Aww! I am going to miss you if you stop blogging, I hope we can stay in touch on FB and IG at least if you do. If you do continue, I look forward to seeing your new posts!

    Carrie
    curlycraftymom.com

  • Dawn Lucy January 3, 2017 at 7:04 am

    Enjoy your break, Rachel, and I hope you find your answers and your balance. Blogging is a “little hobby” that tends to take over your life! Wishing you and your family all the very best in 2017.

    OXOX
    Dawn Lucy
    http://fashionshouldbefun.com

  • Ruth January 3, 2017 at 8:13 am

    I hope you can find peace in whatever decision you make! Blogging is so much work (non bloggers don’t realize this) and sometimes it gets overwhelming. I do know that if this blog is not meant to continue there is something bigger out there for you! Have a wonderful January!

    http://www.mylittlenest.org

  • Jill January 3, 2017 at 8:21 am

    I can totally relate to where you are coming from and have had similar struggles recently. God will help you find your direction! I’ll miss you and whether you continue blogging or not I hope our online friendship will continue!

    Jill
    Doused In Pink

  • jodie filogomo January 3, 2017 at 8:38 am

    Gosh, I so know what you mean about this blogging journey, Rachel!
    It’s amazing how time consuming and all encompassing it can become, but we are truly more than that!
    I hope the best for you!!
    jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

  • Roxanne January 3, 2017 at 9:19 am

    Rachel, thank you for always being real and raw with what’s going on. I commend you for being positive and celebrating this time of transition, rather than being down about it! I’ll miss you, and whether you decide to continue blogging or not I would really love to continue our friendship!
    –Roxanne
    http://glassofglam.com

  • Laura January 3, 2017 at 9:22 am

    Good luck with all your decision making. It can be a hard road to walk spending too little or too much time blogging.

  • amy January 3, 2017 at 10:08 am

    Well first of all, I love that outfit on you. As for my thoughts on whether or not you should continue blogging; I don’t know. It’s between you and God. I’ve actually considered to stop blogging myself. I never did it with the hopes or intentions of money. It actually scares and annoys me when people contact me to do sponsored posts because I don’t know how to handle it. Blogging is just my way of connecting with people and keeping an on-line journal.

  • Rachael Thomas January 3, 2017 at 10:09 am

    Blogging can be so hard and time consuming , so I totally understand stand your decision to stop, especially when it comes to family time. I hope you have a good break and find your answers, and wishing you the best in this new year.
    Rachael
    http://www.threadsforthomasblog.com

  • Linda January 3, 2017 at 10:18 am

    I hope you continue Rachel, remember often its how we interpret words that are said, so maybe he didn’t mean you had to stop but rather needed to change. Stop what you are doing and find your fun and passion again.

  • Jennie January 3, 2017 at 10:43 am

    Best of luck and prayers for you as you take a break and decide how to proceed. Blogging is a tremendously time consuming hobby – fashion blogging is anyway, other types might not be quite so time intensive.

  • Ashley January 3, 2017 at 1:13 pm

    You have to follow your heart, lady! Good luck!

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

  • Sarah Bell January 3, 2017 at 4:54 pm

    So sorry to hear you’re dealing with a difficult decision. It’s great you’re turning it into a positive and celebrating the change no matter what happens! Good luck to you in your journey and thank you for being such a positive inspiration to me! Thank you for the feature and for hosting! I hope to continue to connect into the new year!

    Sarah Bell
    Trendy & Tidy

  • Stephanie January 3, 2017 at 5:50 pm

    Happy NEw year! Follow your heart! Maybe one day you will come back to blogging.

  • Sheree January 4, 2017 at 3:17 am

    Oh Rachel, I’m so glad that I caught this post before your break because I’ve been so consumed with blogging later of 2016 that I became super ill and was forced to take a break and post as needed. I didn’t have time to linkup nor comment on any posts because frankly all I could muster up my energy to do is to write post and click send. I didn’t spend a lot time on social media either trying to promote myself because I would feel exhausted THINKING about it. I haven’t felt so liberated and rested during my forced hiatus. Sure my numbers dropped some, but I got to spend uninterrupted holiday time with my kids and family and that to me is more than anything blogging can provide. I hope you can find your passion on whatever topic you decide to write about and not make it a chore and you might find blogging enjoyable again. Wishing you all the best!!
    ~ xo Sheree
    Posh Classy Mom
    Instagram

  • Katarina January 4, 2017 at 8:24 am

    Good luck with your goals! Celebrating changes, this is so inspiring for me!

  • Laura January 4, 2017 at 8:49 am

    Love this Rachel and whatever your decision is, I wish you the best:):):)

    Laura
    http://www.blackcoffeebeautiful.com

  • Amy January 4, 2017 at 10:04 am

    Great resolutions! Happy 2017!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  • jess January 4, 2017 at 1:40 pm

    Rachael, best wishes and thoughts to you! I know it can be difficult and this time off for the Holiday does help sometimes to clarify things. Other times I think it just leaves one confused. You do whatever it is that makes you fullfilled and happy! That is what is important in life. I enjoy reading you blog, and hope you will be content with whatever the descision.
    Happy New Year! Great goals as well.
    jess xx
    http://www.elegantlydressedandstylish.com

  • Sheela Goh January 5, 2017 at 1:29 pm

    As I was saying on FB, my friend, yours is one of the most authentic and genuine voices in the blogging space. It would be such a shame if that voice was no longer heard 🙂 we all get caught up in the whirlwind of numbers, of posting regularly, establishing a set schedule. So caught up. I personally have felt immensely drained when that happened to me, and I just stopped, and listened to my heart. These days, I post when I have something to say, and when the heart feels empty, I don’t write/post. The world doesn’t stop spinning, life goes on (what?? really??) and I feel recharged for another day.

    At the end of the day, you must do what you feel is best for you, Rachel, what keeps you happy and sane and at peace xoxo

    p/s there’s always Facebook and email and, since I found your email, snail mail GRIN

  • Becky - bybmg January 5, 2017 at 9:50 pm

    Enjoy your time away! You’ve grown this space well. Lots to celebrate.

  • Erica January 9, 2017 at 12:09 pm

    Wonderful list of resolutions Rachel and way to take some time off to figure out what you want. There is no need to do anything that makes you miserable, life is too short for that. Whatever you decide to do I hope its something that makes you truly happy. 🙂

    Erica
    http://www.pumpsandpushups.com

  • Shelbee on the Edge January 10, 2017 at 5:53 am

    Rachel, I am sorry I missed this post last week. I agree with all of the above comments. Give yourself time to discover what exactly God’s message means to you and your direction with this blog. You are so genuine and real and that is a quality that is so much needed in this age of social media and the “images” people put out there. You will be missed if your ultimate decision is to stop blogging, but whatever decision you come to will be the right one for you, your family, and your faith and that is all that really matters. But I’ve got you on Facebook now, so I can always sneak a little glimpse of what goes on in your fabulous, amazing, real life! Hang in there, my friend. And may you find your way with grace and peace! #thestruggleisreal #youvegotthis

    Hugs,
    Shelbee
    http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com

  • the color palette/abril January 10, 2017 at 10:07 pm

    your leggins are so pretty. I always wear leggins at home there is nothing comfier than that
    x,abril
    The Color Palette

  • Liz hugen January 18, 2017 at 10:59 am

    I completely understand where you are coming from here. It can be so hard and there can be so much pressure in blogging. It’s exhausting to keep up with everything. Even if blogging is no longer your passion, it’s okay because I feel like you have found a new passion in Lipsense. Sometimes when you close one door, another opens and I believe that things happen for a reason. And although I’ll be sad to see you go (you were one of my very first readers!) you have to do what is best for you and what you know in your heart is right. I hope that you can find direction and guidance during this time. In the meantime, I’ll catch up with you on Facebook 🙂

    Liz
    http://Www.lizzieinlace.com