To my son Xander on your 3rd Birthday today! My have you grown to be such a handsome and genius little man. I take for granted all the time how special of a gift you are to this world, to your daddy and I and the rest of your family. Your daddy and I prayed for you even before you were even born and we are pleased with what God gave us.
Here is just a little account of what you have always meant to me or your history til now:
I spent a lot of my pregnancy with you sick and with depression. I didn’t like my job and I even found out I lost my job just weeks before you were born. Through the stress of losing my job, you and your daddy were my comforts. I got real sick on April 30th and you came a month early. I was scared but relieved you were coming so early. While I wish I knew most of your birth story I was too sick to stay awake through even holding you for the first time, but I have this picture to remind me that I did hold you for the first time and you were healthy. You weighed 6lbs 8 oz and you were born at 11:53pm by emergency c-section.
While I recovered from being sick in the hospital you became dehydrated as you didn’t know how to nurse being a preemie and mommy couldn’t produce enough milk for you. You lost a lot of weight and had issues with jaundice but your daddy and I finally caved in and placed you on formula. You grew and grew and got better within a week in a half but you were almost hospitalized for your jaundice. You loved your feedings and having mommy and daddy sing to you.
Within a few weeks we started noticing a “strawberry” or little red dot on your forehead that the doctors and dermatologists told us would fade away with time.
You were always a fussy and demanding baby. Your daddy and I would not give you a pacifier and you didn’t like them anyway so you were one of those babies that wanted a “bottle” all the time. While you were a cute munchkin, you were hard to handle at times.
When you were five months old we found out I was pregnant with Max and Elizabeth. Those 8 months being pregnant with the twins and caring for you and Nevaeh was no picnic, but your daddy and other friends and family members were in my life often helping and the Lord got me through it all.
You were always a good brother to your new baby brother and sister. It wasn’t until your brother Max and your sister Elizabeth were walking when you started becoming rougher with them in play but you also had your moments of pretend play with them, sharing some and helping with meeting their needs (getting their blankets, bottles or holding their hand in the parking lots, etc).
You have and will always be my special baby boy. To this day I love to hold you and just say a quick prayer to God about how thankful I am to have you in my life. There are hard days of course, you have moments of meltdowns associated with the terrible twos, you can be VERY stubborn and demanding, but you are VERY sweet and receptive.
You have always had a touch of empathy for others, and you like to have recognition. Before my final message here are some milestones or likes for you to know:
- You learned to roll over at around 3 months old
- You slept in a basinet in our bedroom til you were 5 months old
- You transitioned to a crib at 5 months old
- You sat up on your own around 5 months old
- You fed yourself via your fingers at around 5 or 6 months old
- You didn’t crawl til you were close to 9 months old
- At 10 months old your pediatrician referred you to Early Intervention, but through testing you did not qualify as a baby with delays.
- You have had asthma that hospitalized you once.
- You liked walking with mommy or daddy holding your arms up from 8 months to 12.
- You learned to pull up on things at 10 or 11 months old
- You learned to walk on your own when you were 13 months on fathers day of 2013.
- You wore cloth diapers for several months when you were younger
- You potty trained at around 30 months old
- You liked Elmo, Fireman Sam, Casper, Minions from Despicable Me (or you call them boom booms) and Finding Nemo.
- You always liked toy cars, fire trucks and trains.
- Your favorite foods are the unhealthy ones
- But you do love your fruits
- You hate getting your teeth brushed
- You have 3 blankets
- You have been in the 90th percentile for your height as compared to other boys your age. You have always been a bit tall for your age.
- You love being read to or trying to retell or read books yourself
- You are loved by so many people and God.
We are excited for the new things you will learn or grow to love. We are so excited that you are starting to talk more and be more understandable with your language. It brings us joy that you will sometimes name your colors (but not when asked to, only when we catch you doing it), we love that you are learning to count and we are EXTRA proud of you for learning to peddle a tricycle recently on your own. Your daddy and I are so proud of you and can’t wait for what your three year old year will hold (until then enjoy that Birthday cake slice).
We love you! Happy Birthday Xander,
Love your mommy (and daddy).