Before I get on the topic of cold shoulders (more than one) let me start with a few reflections. It is hard to believe that tomorrow I will be 31. It seems like yesterday that I turned 30. For months now I contemplated doing a giveaway or group giveaway or some fun series to celebrate my birthday here on the blog but I kept coming back to keep.it.simple.
So far this year there have been good and some sad changes in our family but I am still counting my blessings and thankful to God for holding us through and I thank Him for all that He has done and will do.
I have had my eye on the cold shoulder trend for awhile now and decided that for mothers day (rough weekend) that I would shop a bit because mothers day is always the perfect time to get clothing and because I was stressed but I came out good and got this cold shoulder top on clearance at Target for $13. After wearing it two times a hole developed in the seam in the back which got bigger throughout the day of my second time wearing it. The top will need mending badly before it can be worn out in public again.
It is a shame to get an item you love and have expectations on only to be disappointed right away. Which brings me to my rant about how stressful mothers day was.
I am grateful for being a mother and for my own mother…heck even my only surviving grandmother however much I felt hurt by her. You see I finally took my children to visit her (my grandmother) in a nursing home, as a mothers day gift. She had never met them (as she lives in another state and been in poor health for years) and since there was a scare on her health recently I felt it was time to take the kids to visit her, before they never got to meet her. I had expectations that she would love them, want to hug them or something loving.
But nothing. She was rude the entire time. She criticized and doubted my parenting and was cold. There were no hugs or smiles, no “I am glad that you are here or have come,” no “you children are cute” she didn’t even ask them a thing. I came away from my trip numb, crying even, because I felt my expectations were let down. Gee grandma, thanks for the cold shoulder (no pun intended). I asked my dad (who went with me, as my hubby stayed home sick) how she could be so cruel and he only shrugged it away and mentioned that perhaps she hadn’t been around children in so long and that children made her nervous. In her parenting days children were meant to be seen not heard. My dad received spankings if he even moved much in public as a child (which is silly).
I guess I came away from that trip realizing that we can love something so much and have expectations but only to have it torn, like this shirt. It takes a ton of mending to be comfortable with it again in this situation and as well as with the hole in the top.
In hindsight I like to think that this whole situation could bring about forgiveness, a forgiving granddaughter such as myself and mended top.
What expectations have you had lately and were they met? Do you own a cold shoulder top and how do you style it?
Now for “Bloggers Who Have Inspired Me” link up
Rachel is a former full time preschool special education teacher turned full time stay-at- home mom of four children with a passion for substitute teaching and blogging at Garay Treasures on the side. Garay Treasures is a fashion and lifestyle blog with some added posts on faith and everyday treasures. Rachel loves drinking several cups of coffee a day (hot or iced), blogging, and reading and playing with her children. You can follow Rachel by bloglovin, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook or Pinterest.
Now on to the Featured 5 from last week:
This yellow little dress on Sofia is perfect for Spring and Summer and reminds me of someone who is a yellow dress fanatic (in case you are reading this Cassie, I can totally see it on you). Read post here.
Laura looks amazing in this dressed up casual look, plus those lace up heels-LOVE! Check it out here.
I love reading about the adventures of Eve through school and life as she reminds me of a younger me. Check out her celebration post here.
I learned a few things about keeping my skin healthy during the warm weather months here. Great list and read.
I know many of my readers are adult coloring book fanatics so while I don’t personally partake in this hobby I thought many of you would appreciate this from an artist firsthand. See her recommendations here.
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