Last week was a rough week, I won’t go into the full details but one thing that hit me at a breaking point was sitting in front of my computer and reading the blog of a girl much younger than me, celebrating her 1 year of blogging. I had never read her blog before but stumbled upon it from a Blogging group and in the post she celebrated all the big things that happened to her blog in a year…her stats read triple than mine and I have been blogging for almost 2 years in January (granted I did switch to self-hosted in April of 2015 but the blog and name stayed the same). Looking at her stats and then seeing the stats or lovely sites of other bloggers (some newer to blogging) I began comparing myself to them and felt annoyed with blogging because of it…rather than joy! I lost my motivation for a few days (hence no post on Friday).
While I sat in my un-motivated to blog mode I finally talked with my husband about my annoyance and he simply said “that girl you read about is in college and so of course she has more time to blog, whereas you have 4 kids and blog because you like it and when you can.” I praised his encouragement and prayed on blogging a bit. Then Friday night in the shower a revelation came to mind, or a God breathed reminder of Psalm 139:14 which reads “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” and somehow I knew I needed to change my thinking as to how I compare myself and how I needed to value myself and my uniqueness, not that of other bloggers. I began thanking God that I had some time to blog, grew more confident in myself, working with others and more. I began to value me in comparison to other bloggers and then I thought instead of doing a whole post in self-pity of comparing myself I will list some tips or encouragement for “How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Bloggers,” so here we go:
1). Realize your own talents and beauty. Remember Psalm 139:14 above.
2). Talk with someone you can confide in or even another blogger and let them know your struggle, perhaps who you are comparing yourself too is on another level, or perhaps the blogger has been blogging longer but is still improving themselves.
3). Realize the circumstances of your life. Some bloggers blog full time or have more time to blog than perhaps you can. Realize your own life and priorities and where does blogging fit in there. Do what you can.
4). How many bloggers or brands worked with have you inspired? Encouraged? Think on those bloggers or brands e-mails, tweets, comments and realize how you helped them in some way. (I have made a lot of partnerships or friendships this way).
5). Instead of harbouring jealousy contact that blogger you compare yourself to and find out their tips on growing their blog, etc. Who knows a friendship or partnership could unfold.
6). Write down truths about yourself as a person and blogger. Who are you? What makes you different than other bloggers? From the bloggers you compare yourself to.
7). Consider praying for the bloggers you compare yourself to. Perhaps they have some personal issues going on that you either do know or don’t know about.
8). Sometimes other bloggers have more resources (financial, connections, time, PR’s with brands, followers, etc) and remember this takes time in itself to build.
9). Is there something about the other blogger that you admire and would love to recreate? Do so and mention them, give a shout out. Acknowledge that you love their work or posts regardless of comparing or jealousy at times.
10). Rejoice with them when they make a feature in a magazine, or get nominated for a certain reward. Or when a big event happens in their life. Let them know you rejoice for them or vote for them to be nominated etc.
11). If you have ever felt like that blogger was once snobby or way to different from you- think again later on down the road as you may find out you have more in common than you thought and collaborations or at least a cordial friendship could unfold.
12). Take a break from blogging and pray, or come up with another creative outlet for awhile until you are ready to ease back into blogging.
There are probably more tips and encouragement I could give, but the mentioned tips are ones I have done or would love to do, especially when I get into a comparison rut.
With that in mind what tips or encouragement do you have or do when you find yourself comparing yourself to other bloggers?
Several other bloggers and myself are hosting a $60 Target gift card giveaway, see details below:
The giveaway will open on Monday, September 7th and will close Monday September 14th. We will announce a winner no later then the 17th. In order to win, they must follow everyone’s twitter account and we will be verifying. Giveaway twitter accounts will not count! The giveaway will be for a 60 dollar giftcard to target! Open to US residents only please!