8 Things I have learned to Accept & 2 ways to get discounted LipSense

October 11, 2016


I know my last few posts have been bombarded by the statements of “life’s been crazy” or “too busy” and while that’s not changed I am admitting that I have slightly lost my motivation. I want to work on this though because when I think ahead to the future of this blog I DON’T want it to go away. Which leads to today’s topic and that is on things I am learning to accept or perhaps change.

When I first started this blog I blogged five days a week. Then this went down to four, then three and since starting with LipSense my posts have dwindled down to two. These two blog posts I publish a week make me kind of sad as I know somewhere deep down is the drive to put out some content but the motivation isn’t there. The past month or so has had it’s challenges and I have learned and had to toughen up a little. I have also grown in my dependence for God and some days are easier than others. Below I thought I would share some serious and not so serious things I have come to accept or change.


1). Accept indoor photos when you get a good lit area and have your camera handy. Now I know this isn’t serious but it is fun to accept as I think I have only done inside photos once or twice. This particular photo shoot was done in our local mall while taking our babes to story time.

2). I am a shy introvert that avoids conflict but when someone does something that is seriously inappropriate I have the right to speak out, even if firm to harsh. I won’t explain the situation but hopefully it NEVER continues again. Especially when it involves my children.  I have come to accept that I have a voice and if they can’t speak for themselves against wrong, then I can. I need to toughen up and not allow it again.

3). My husband started a different shift at work. This means he gets to work very early in the morning and is home by the afternoon so we have our evenings with him. This means my past blogging time is now different as I am trying to make more time to be with him.

4). Speaking of work I am often wondering about how I can help provide for the family. While the blog provided some income in the past, recently it’s been crickets in the sponsorship area. I am always looking for new ways and ideas to help my family of six out and sometimes feel like I fail at it. I feel that I am not contributing or doing enough sometimes.

5). To contradict myself a little on what I said in 4, I need to also be OK if I don’t ever earn another income apart from my husbands this year. Instead I need to trust God.

6). I need to accept that I make mistakes. I made a mistake last week and now lessons are learned.

7).  I need to accept Grace. Almost a week and a half ago my grandmother passed away.  I explained in this post how cruel she was to my kids and I and it took forgiving her, and I did. I actually didn’t morn her death like I did my grandfather/ For that very reason I felt bad. I wanted to go to the out of town funeral to be with my dad through this difficult time, but I didn’t. There were a lot of factors stopping me, mainly transportation, sick kids and no extra travel and hotel money (we don’t have credit cards). I had a rough time with accepting grace. I felt like I had an obligation and duty to be there but I didn’t go. After the fact and the day of the funeral I was very joyful and at peace with my decision. Don’t take this the wrong way, I did love my grandmother but growing up I wasn’t real close to her like I am my grandmother-in-law.


8). Accept that I am me. I can’t be what the next blogger, neighbor, sibling or friend is.  God’s word says this perfectly in Psalm 139:14 (NIV) “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”  I have talked a lot with my husband about God’s creation and I am amazed by it. I am amazed by how God equips us all with talents, gifts, personalities and a desire to need eachother, but especially Him. I need to accept that my circumstances or gifts are different than someone elses and not compare.


Now that I have shared with you some information about the above things I am coming to accept I want to also share with you a fun game. Three or four of you have expressed that you want to try LipSense but haven’t yet because of the price. Well from today until next Tuesday, October 18th (one week) I am giving two first readers a chance at 10% off their $55 starter kit, which includes a color of choice, oops remover and glossy gloss (shipping and tax fees still apply, not good on one color or one gloss). To get this discount on a starter kit the first two ladies to comment below must name at least 2 stores/logos you see in these photos/background stores. The photos are blurry, but hopefully you can tell what they are, you have one week to get the answers to me.  Once you receive your discount you have until November 25th to redeem your discount and tell me your order, after that the discount is void.  That gives you a few weeks to save up some extra spending money. I accept Paypal and can only distribute/mail in the US (sorry all my out of country friends). **For first timers you need to use glossy gloss as it’s most hydrating and is part of the layering process after layering on the lipstick color. No other brand of gloss or color can be used with LipSense as these result in clumps and don’t provide moisture for the lips.** To pick out colors go here to this post and I will be happy to provide you with choices based on your skin tone and hair.

NOT WILLING TO PLAY A GAME BUT WANT TO EARN UP TO 20% off LipSense and Free Products? Then e-mail me (rachel.garay@me.com) and let me know you would like to host a Facebook party and I will work it all out. All you have to do is invite and have fun while earning rewards.

Feel free to check out or ask to join my LipSense Facebook page (here) for further updates or future discounts/giveaways.

Outfit details for this post: Lipcolor: 2 Layers Rose Ice, 1 Layer Lexie-Beary + Glossy Gloss by LipSense//Kimonocho: The Flourish Market//Brown top: similar//Pants: similar//Boots: c/o Marmi//Necklace: c/0 d.monaco designs//Bead Bracelet: c/0 UnCommonGoods//Charm bangle: c/0 Lucie’s Lucket//Purse: Michael Michael Kors, similar

Now it’s time for “Bloggers Who Have Inspired Me” link up:

Meet your Host: Rachel of Garay Treasures blog:



Rachel is a former full time preschool special education teacher turned full time stay-at- home mom of four children with a passion for substitute teaching and blogging at Garay Treasures on the side. Garay Treasures is a fashion and lifestyle blog with some added posts on faith and everyday treasures. Rachel loves drinking several cups of coffee a day (hot or iced), blogging, and reading and playing with her children. You can follow Rachel by bloglovin, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook or Pinterest.

Meet your Co-Host: Ada of Elegance of Mommyhood:



“Hi, I am Ada and I blog at Elegance and Mommyhood. As a busy working mom to a 3-year old and a wife, I am always running into a million directions. It is always important to me to feel and look good and I do so in a budget. Sale aisles, coupons and retailers like Target are my friends. I have proved through the 4+ years I have been blogging that you don’t have to spend a fortune to look like a million bucks. Not all of us can afford Nordstrom, Bloomingdales and J.Crew on a daily basis and that is alright. So welcome by to see how I style my loving wardrobe and my daughter Vivian too. I can be found on BloglovinInstagram and Pinterest. Thank you for having me be your co-host once again, Rachel.”

Now on to the Featured 5  from last week:


I was inspired by Sarah’s choice in naming this shirts color. While this is a random inspiration I find myself calling items in this color by that name. See what she named the tee color here. Also find out from that same post 4 Fall colors to wear now.


Lizzie’s post on “You Know Your A Fashion Blogger When” post was a fun read and had me proclaiming “AMEN!” at most all of them. Check out the post here for a good smile or laugh.


I found Lisa’s story of overcoming anxiety and pain just inspirational and you can find that post here. 


Jill’s story is equally as inspirational on her journey through the beginning stages of Breast cancer. Find out more here.

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ChiChi’s take on silver jewelry and her outfit are remarkable here.

Now it is your turn, please follow the rules below and enjoy!

 1). Please link up recent posts and include the link up button or post this URL link back on your blog. The posts can be about fashion, DIY projects, recipes, inspiration, tips, etc. *If you link up other link ups or giveaways please be sure you share this link up on your link up post to share the blog love and I will be sure to link up to yours. Also please follow me in the below social medias and let me know how you are following and I will follow back. Thank you!

2). Please follow your host: Rachel of Garay Treasures either by Bloglovin, Instagram, Facebook or Twitter or all. Comment below and let me know how you are following so I can follow back.

3). Stop by and check out the other bloggers who have linked up and be inspired.

4). Have fun! Comment below if you have any questions! Thanks for linking up!

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  • Ruth October 11, 2016 at 12:53 am

    Blogging is such a weird thing. I always feel like I’m only as good as who is sponsoring me…..and what if they stop? I get stressed out from it when I really only want to blog for fun and hey if I get the chance to try new products, and share them that’s a plus! I hope that you can continue to figure things out and find happiness it what you choose to do!


  • Katie October 11, 2016 at 2:26 am

    Thanks for sharing your list of things you’ve learned to accept, as it’s very inspiring. There are so many things that are out of our control in life, but the one thing we can control is how we deal with what life brings our way. I hope you have a great week ahead and thanks for hosting!


  • Nancy October 11, 2016 at 2:28 am

    I hope all is going well for you real soon. Sometimes we have those periode when all nasty things come together.

  • irene October 11, 2016 at 2:39 am

    i totally agree with you about how busy everyday life can be. I really get your points and you are just so right. Family is always first and everything else is comming after that. But we have to find ways to cope.
    thank you so much for hosting the link up

  • Anna Shirley October 11, 2016 at 3:47 am

    Very nice poncho Rachel. Perfect earthy colors. And the bag is real gem. o)

    Anna xoxo

  • Nina October 11, 2016 at 5:41 am

    Thank you for your honesty here. No one has it all together for sure. And I’m sorry for your loss. It is difficult when the person was not that great to your children. I mean they come first, right? You have to protect your babies. As long as she is up there at peace, there really is nothing else to do … just keep on being the best mom, wife, blogger, etc. you can be!


  • Debbie Stinedurf October 11, 2016 at 6:16 am

    Losing your mojo from time to time is normal; whether it be in regard to blogging or life in general. I think that we all start out gung ho with our blogs when they’re in their infancy. I used to post 5 days a week as well, but have since dropped it to 3 with the occasional 2 day weeks thrown in. Sometimes it’s helpful to step a way for a bit and take a break, maybe focus on other things for a week or two. When I do this I feel refreshed and excited to get back to the blog.

  • Pam October 11, 2016 at 6:20 am

    You have so much going on in your life, but it sounds like you are working through it and approaching things from a good place in your heart.

  • Emma Peach October 11, 2016 at 6:48 am

    I had a bit of a crisis moment last week when I seriously questioned the amount of time I spend blogging/on social media. Trying to juggle it with working freelance and looking after a seven-year-old is challenging. I suppose it’s only when we have doubts that we reassess our situation and ask ourselves if it’s working and make changes if necessary. Constantly keeping those plates spinning ain’t easy!

    Emma xxx

  • Carrie @ Curly Crafty Mom October 11, 2016 at 6:49 am

    I always love how much you pure your true self into your posts! Lately I have been posting a lot on my blog and I have thought about going down in the number of days, just not sure how to do that yet. I am sorry for the loss of your grandma… I think there are just some relatives we are going to be closer to, because our personalities blend better. With the funeral being out of town, it sounds like it would have been too hard to leave, especially with sick kiddos. I am excited for you and your Lipsense journey, once things calm down here I need to take a look at them.


  • Jaymie Ashcraft October 11, 2016 at 6:57 am

    Have a great week!!

  • Brenda October 11, 2016 at 7:03 am

    Hey girl, your husband knows you are trying and your extremely concerned about the situation of finance. sometimes life gets tough, but you dont back down and accept what it throws at you. Trust more in God and never loose faith in him. Pray more. HE LISTENS EVERY TIME you call on Him. And when you think it may never get better, He opens a door you never have thought of.

    You are inspiring and strong willed lady and i admire that. Nice blog. i am bookmarking your blog on both my laptop and phone.


  • Kathrine Eldridge October 11, 2016 at 7:05 am

    Thanks for sharing your struggles and how God is there for you. I needed to hear this today. We always can be so hard on ourselves but He will always provide. So sorry for you loss. I do love this fringe poncho and this cool boho look! Thanks for the link up.


  • Jill October 11, 2016 at 7:06 am

    Your list of acceptances are spot on! I’m glad you are stepping back and looking at things in a positive light. Thank you for the feature!

    Doused In Pink

  • Andrea@WellnessNotes October 11, 2016 at 7:22 am

    You have so much going on in your life, and I think it’s good that you wrote down what bothers you/you wanted to accept. I find sometimes just saying/writing down and truly acknowledging things is helpful. I’ve felt quite overwhelmed myself, and I think I’ll need to write a similar list (if just for myself).

    I really like your outfit! The mall photos turned out great!

  • Sarah @ Bows & Clothes October 11, 2016 at 7:39 am

    Rachel, I love what you said about accepting grace and the fact that you make mistakes. I also struggle in the area of comparison and giving myself some grace. Thank you for this encouragement and thank you for featuring me!


  • Amy October 11, 2016 at 7:45 am

    Sounds like you are in a season of learning a lot and doing a lot. You manage it all well!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

  • Rachael Thomas October 11, 2016 at 8:12 am

    Some things are just out of our control, and being open for change makes life a lot easier. I love your acceptence and postive thinking. Also love your poncho!

  • jodie filogomo October 11, 2016 at 8:30 am

    I think we all need to realize many of these points Rachel. It took me a long time to get to some of these points and I feel like a lot of time was wasted!
    I’ll never be perfect, but then nobody is…so we need to enjoy the life we have with the special people in it!!
    And what you can contribute is fabulous—to the blog, to your family, etc!!
    Keep positive!! And thanks for hosting this every week!

  • Marta October 11, 2016 at 8:46 am

    Thanks for sharing these points, I am also “up and down” when it comes to blogging so I hear you and I’ve come to accept certain aspects of it too that sometimes may not go they way you hope.
    Cute fringe poncho, as the weather gets cold it’s definitely a struggle to take outdoor pics!

  • Laura October 11, 2016 at 8:47 am

    Sometimes it really is hard to accept things in life, but once you finally do, it is amazing the peace you feel. I definitely have had some challenging things over the past few years, but I feel so much better now that I have accepted them! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  • Red Tag Chic Los Angeles October 11, 2016 at 8:50 am

    What a great share!!!

    Check out how I merged a bit of Fall and Summer in a single look at the blog this week and let me know what you think!

    Happy Tuesday!


  • Stephanie October 11, 2016 at 9:00 am

    Love your outfit! That lip color is amazing!

  • Celia M. - HighHeeledLife.com October 11, 2016 at 9:02 am

    Thank you for sharing this … I think many of us go through this cycle of acceptance and frustration (and feel we are alone) – especially with the blogging post roller coaster… and hoping to generate some sort of compensation for our efforts in trying to provide informative, inspirational, motivational content. We just have to trust that HE has a plan and do the best we can. Great post!!

  • MVAP Blog October 11, 2016 at 10:04 am

    Hey I love your post 🙂 <3
    Mónica Sors

  • Jennie October 11, 2016 at 10:17 am

    First of all, you look great! I really like your neutral poncho. Plus the inside photos look fab. If I had a spot with decent lighting inside my home I would be all over indoor photos. 🙂

    Thanks for the heartfelt shares today. It takes courage to be vulnerable with the world and you do it so well. Blogging takes a lot out of you. I used to do the five day a week posts, too, and now wonder how on earth I managed it. Breaks and taking care of ourselves and family are necessary parts of it. It helps to remember why we are blogging in the first place. For me it is for fun and when it stops being that then I know I need to step away.

  • Johanna Grange October 11, 2016 at 10:49 am

    I think you’re doing an amazing job and these are great reminders. We are all spread so thin. I had to pull back on blogging, too. Sometimes we just need to get reinvigorated!

  • amy October 11, 2016 at 11:09 am

    First of all you look great in a poncho! Love this look on you. Second, I live in an extreme winter weather climate so I am forced to take pictures indoors during the winter months a lot. Your indoor pics looks great because your mall is so well lit with natural lighting it appears. Our local mall is dark, so I don’t think it would work. I agree with all your points, but especially the one about being yourself in Blog Land. So many bloggers seem to copy each other…the look, the blog style, the blog topics, etc. It gets boring! I wish more bloggers would just be themselves and find their own niche.

  • Liz hugen October 11, 2016 at 11:43 am

    I can really relate to this post. When I started my blog, I was working 60+ hours a week between teaching guitar and subbing five days a week. I have cut down my time to subbing two days a week and teaching the other three days. It still ends up being 35-40 hours but is so much more manageable! Even then, sometimes life gets in the way. Since May, things have been nonstop! Especially the last three months or so. My advice is to make a detailed schedule and stick to it! Make sure to include “free time” 🙂 And I’m sorry to hear about your grandma, but I’m right there with you. Mine is the same way and it’s painful sometimes. Thank you for opening up!



  • Liz hugen October 11, 2016 at 11:44 am

    And thanks so much for the feature! I didn’t even see that at first lol!! <3

  • Madame X October 11, 2016 at 11:54 am

    Inside photos are indeed nice. I like the neutral colors in your outfit, and the poncho cardigan is pretty! You are stunning, and I love your eyes…

    Madame X
    The Flower Duet

  • Becky @ bybmg October 11, 2016 at 12:10 pm

    It sounds like you have a lot going on! Praying you find some peace and can evaluate your priorities and it all shakes out.

  • Jess October 11, 2016 at 12:29 pm

    Hi Rachael, you are very insightful. I think acceptance can be a hard thing, but you sound like you are doing quite well. I am sorry for some of the hardships you have had recently. I try and think and put things in perspective if I can, it does help. You look lovely in this tan poncho and bag, I really love the coziness and style of a great poncho. As far as blogging goes, when I take a break it does help with more motivation as family is first priority.
    take care, jess xx

  • Ashley October 11, 2016 at 1:14 pm

    I love that you’re taking the time to be a little introspective and tackle some acceptance- it can be TOUGH, that’s for sure. Sending good vibes!

    Le Stylo Rouge

  • Lisa Morin October 11, 2016 at 2:13 pm

    Rachel I love your post and you look stunning!! Thank you so much for including me in your featured bloggers. XO #LINKUPWITHLISA @ http://www.beauty101bylisa.com/2016/10/linkupwithlisa-70-hunter-green-and.html

  • Sheela Goh October 11, 2016 at 2:49 pm

    I blogged every day in the beginning then twice a week then once a month and then an 18 month hiatus. This time around, I fluctuate between 1-3 posts a week. It’s hard. Life is hard. So many things and people need us or need things from us, and there never seems to be enough hours in a day. I too have lost quite a bit of mojo lately, I just feel so tired and unable to concentrate, and the first thing to suffer is productivity (both at work and on the blog). In a bid to counter the latter, I’ve been partnering with others to co-host link-ups (ahem, like ours), and I have a beauty summit in two weeks with fellow bloggers which I’m hoping will resurrect some of that lost juju.

    In terms of your list, #7 rings very true for me. I did not love my paternal grandmother at all. She was vicious and nasty and unkind to the females of our family, and worshipped the males. Very conservative Asian. Anyway, she passed quite a while back and I remember being guilty about not feeling sad. Being unable to commiserate with my Dad’s grief. In all honesty, I’ve never come to terms with her/our relationship (or lack thereof), and I’m not sure I really want to. That said, what you wrote has opened my eyes into thinking that perhaps I can learn to accept the dynamics of how we were, and be at peace with it. So, thank you, my friend, for frequently sharing little nuggets of wisdom xoxo

  • Jacqui October 11, 2016 at 3:55 pm

    Thank you for an inspiring blog. Such an interesting read, well done you. Nice to link up with you . Jacqui

  • Petite Silver Vixen October 11, 2016 at 4:09 pm

    It’s very easy to feel you’re being pulled in too many directions and failing in all of them. Acceptance is a huge step. It’s all too easy to be hard on yourself when in fact you are providing for your family – may not be financially but there are many other ways that you are. So hold your chin up high.


  • Sheree October 11, 2016 at 5:41 pm

    Thank you for being so honest and candid about all your struggles as we’ve all been there from time to time. Just know that you have a loyal audience and we love seeing/reading what you have to share.

    ~ xo Sheree
    Posh Classy Mom

  • Casey Capra October 11, 2016 at 7:30 pm

    I am so bad at remembering/accepting #8 on your list!!! Thanks for the encouragement, and the reminder.

  • Amy's Fashion Blog October 11, 2016 at 8:33 pm

    Super cute casual outfit. I know you will get back in to the blog groove again.


  • Shea October 11, 2016 at 10:35 pm

    Sometimes it’s so healing to take a step back and just reflect. I think life can sometimes get so busy that you just go nonstop without realizing how it’s affecting you and if it’s doing you good. I need to do more of this myself, especially giving myself grace and just trusting God. Great post Rachel!

  • Shannon Jenkins October 11, 2016 at 10:53 pm

    I feel you girl! The blogging world is not easy but I it always gets better when you start to accept! You look gorgeous! Loving the fringe!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeat Soles

  • Katarina October 12, 2016 at 7:17 am

    Thank you for sharing this with us! We are here for you so take your time! Love the look!

  • chichi October 12, 2016 at 7:41 am

    u looks so lovely wearing this lip shade!! blogging is so funny, i get stressed out too about making money from it but then i realize it is what i love and i carry on!

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  • Cielo October 12, 2016 at 5:50 pm

    Thanks for sharing you struggles… everyone has them and you still handle them with grace. You should be proud of yourself =)

    – Cielo
    Mermaid in Heels

  • Christie October 12, 2016 at 6:15 pm

    Great post, Rachel! I love how thoughtful and introspective you are. I’m the same way but there aren’t many other people that are! Life’s tough but we’re all doing our best. That’s all we can do!

    The Closet by Christie

  • Tif October 12, 2016 at 10:39 pm

    Love the wrap look! Also, I hope things get a little easier/smoother-flowing, friend!!!


  • Mónica - MVAP Blog October 13, 2016 at 6:18 am

    Loved the bag so much!!
    Mónica Sors

  • Mackenzie Carol October 13, 2016 at 11:03 am

    Sometimes it is so hard to accept things we don’t really like, so I have to totally agree with you! But I’m so glad that you’ve been able to come to terms with the new things in your life. Thanks for sharing at the Grace + Lace Linkup!

  • Lorena October 13, 2016 at 1:03 pm

    Hi Rachel, thank you for your comment on my blog and i hope that Balenciaga comes your way through a stupendous thrift 😉
    Some days are difficult than others however a year from now most things won’t matter, focus on what’s really important and will matter in the long run. Hugs

  • Elise October 14, 2016 at 9:40 am

    This is such a great list. I need to remind myself of some of these things as well and accept I can only be myself and not to compare or compete. Love this look too!

    xx, Elise

  • lauriepop October 14, 2016 at 10:24 pm

    Love that you have that perspective! What a blessing to look on the eternal side of things. Great pics; first visit. @lauriepop2