Yesterday my husband and I celebrated 6 years of marriage. 6 YEARS! I am still in heaven with that thought as I love my man to pieces. We celebrated by staying at a friends lake house over night last weekend and we LOVED it. No kids, no responsibilities…just the lake, my hubby, some movies and a nice hot tub. I couldn’t ask for a better anniversary trip and better man. My husband was kind enough to take these photos on the top deck at the lake before our swim and so I am sorry if you see the tankini top seeing through, but I am not sorry at the same time as we had loads of fun.
While I thought about this post I thought it would be nice to let you know 6 things I have learned about marriage in my 6 years of being married. I am no expert and I haven’t been married for 10 + years but whether you are married for 6 months to 50 years I think the following lessons learned can be somewhat relate-able to all married couples.
6 Things I have Learned About Marriage in my 6 Years of Being Married:
- Put God first in the marriage.
Now I know that not everyone reading this would agree with this first thing or even believe in the Lord Jesus Christ but we acknowledge God and put our trust in Him in ALL things. Sometimes I admit it is better said than done, but in the end when we feel weak or strong we still put our trust and belief in Him. His works are always higher than ours.
- Don’t go to bed angry. A few times in our marriage I went to bed with hurt feelings or anger and I have learned that those make for tougher days or trouble sleeping so why wait on talking about it. Now I am not saying blow up in their face, but instead pray about the opportunity or words to say and do so in away that starts with “I feel this way when…” or “I thought we would talk about this..” and be loving…even forgiving.
- Forgiving. We all mess up, I mess up, my husband does and we all have a past or do things that may hurt the other in some way and in those moments we must choose to forgive and talk about it and move on versus holding on to anger and unforgiveness.
- Kiss as much as possible. Before my husband goes to work, when we greet eachother after work, and before bed and possibly 2-3 times more in the day. This is important to keep a spark of the intimacy alive plus I read somewhere that kisses and hugs in front of the kids lets them visually see your love as well, just as you kiss and love them.
- Hold hands as much as possible. Like kissing above, keep the intimacy alive.
- Learn their love language all over. This is an area I thought would never change when my husband and I first met and got married, but through the years what we do for each other to show we love each other can sometimes change. Example: there was a time where words of affirmation meant a lot to me and then periods where it didn’t, and then back again. (Love languages are: showing acts of service, physical touch, words of affirmation, feeling loved through gifts and quality time together).
There are many more things I am learning throughout these years but the above 6 are some of the first to come to my mind that I know we are continuously working on or showing each other. I am grateful for our 6 years and the love that we share and I couldn’t ask for a better marriage and man.
If you are married, how long have you been married and what advice do you have?